Relationship Burnout

We all have an innate need to be seen, heard and understood by our partner. With relationship therapy – Brisbane & online, you can finally experience it.

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You’re oh so tired of the fighting, the resentment, the tension in the house…but you’re also trying to hold it all together for the kids or the life you’ve built.

When you start to feel more like roommates or co-parents and you can’t remember the last time you felt truly connected, you could be in relationship burnout.

If your relationship isn’t thriving the way you hoped it’s almost certainly not your fault. You’d be part of the lucky few if you grew up observing your parents having a connected, loving relationship where both parties felt listened to and conflict was resolved peacefully. For many people, we have no reference point for this so it’s no wonder so many couples get stuck.

The good news is that it is possible to revive and breathe life back into a relationship no matter how far gone it feels. In fact, it’s easily possible if both parties are engaged and committed.

If you’re looking to do relationship therapy in Brisbane and need a safe space to discover how to feel like romantic partners again, I can help.

How many of these common causes of relationship burnout sound like you?

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Competition:

Do you feel like you’ve created a toxic environment, constantly competing for who is right and who is wrong – or who does more? Does it feel like you’ve lost all sensitivity and compassion for one another?

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Resentment:

Do you find yourself not expressing your needs and boundaries and then feeling a lot of resentment simmering in the back of your mind and heart?

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Taken for Granted:

Do you feel like your partner doesn’t value or care about you? Do you feel like you receive no appreciation or acknowledgment for what you do?

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Loneliness:

Do you feel like you’re living separate lives? Are you feeling lonely and invisible in your relationship? Do you feel like you’ve been grieving the loss of your connection even though you’re still technically together? Are you living a silent separation?

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Lack of Intimacy:

Do you feel like your relationship is centred around prioritising your kids or your work and lacks intimacy — unique things that you do only with each other? Do you dread the idea of spending time together and would rather do your own thing?

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Life Stress:

Do you feel like it’s not possible to go on date nights and have fun together because you’re barely keeping your heads above water? Do your financial, parental, family or other life responsibilities seem to amplify your relationship issues?

Most people with relationship burnout are experiencing a combination of these causes.

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After being married for almost two decades and speaking to hundreds of people about their relationships, I’ve seen and heard it all.

Most couples are experiencing very similar issues and it usually roots down to discomfort and grief over feeling disconnected from the person who was once your moon and stars and now feels like someone you no longer recognise or like.

It is a powerful thing to be vulnerable and transparent about what you need. I support couples to open up channels to communicate this way SAFELY – with no blaming, shaming or guilt allowed. This empowers everyone to be heard and responded to in a safe space whilst learning how to bring this powerful way of communicating into their home lives.

My clients say this is truly transformative to all of their relationships when they learn this. Not just their romantic relationships but also their relationships with their kids, colleagues, friends and family.

After being married for almost two decades and speaking to hundreds of people about their relationships, I’ve seen and heard it all.

Most couples are experiencing very similar issues and it usually roots down to discomfort and grief over feeling disconnected from the person who was once your moon and stars and now feels like someone you no longer recognise or like.

It is a powerful thing to be vulnerable and transparent about what you need. I support couples to open up channels to communicate this way SAFELY – with no blaming, shaming or guilt allowed. This empowers everyone to be heard and responded to in a safe space whilst learning how to bring this powerful way of communicating into their home lives.

My clients say this is truly transformative to all of their relationships when they learn this. Not just their romantic relationships but also their relationships with their kids, colleagues, friends and family.

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Recovering from relationship burnout

While every relationship is unique, here are some approaches that may help you find a bigger space in each other’s hearts again.

1. Connection before correction – It’s easy to lose our sensitivity and compassion in the face of the stressors of life. Slowing down and listening helps us be more intentional with our words and actions, so we’re not simply reactive and say what we don’t really mean. Practicing speaking in a calmer, more compassionate tone, and offering each other the benefit of the doubt can help greatly.

2. Practice curiosity and clarity – It’s important to hear your partner out and honour what they’re saying instead of making assumptions about what they’re saying or what they mean. In my work, I help couples unpack HOW they show up in their relationship (behaviour) WHY they do this (feelings) and WHERE the feelings are coming from (need). When we can understand our partner’s needs clearly we have the opportunity to meet them, taking all the guesswork and assumptions out of it.

3. Prioritise the relationship – Privileging the relationship, not just the family unit means that you do unique things together as a couple that you wouldn’t do with friends and family and which don’t involve the kids. This is what creates the feeling of intimacy, but it’s really easy to stop prioritising each other because you’re so busy with work, kids and other commitments. Bringing fun and spontaneity back into the relationship will help you reconnect and feel like your old selves again.

4. Talk to a professional – When creating an environment of safe communication and breaking out of ingrained patterns and unhelp behaviour is a struggle, seeking professional help can get you back on track. They’ll be able to help you identify your blind spots with each other and see your relationship and acts from new perspectives. It can also help to know you have a dedicated time in your schedule to work on your relationship.

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How I can help you love your relationship and life again

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My signature burnout recovery program helps you break the cycle of overgiving. Over 4 weeks you’ll go on a guided journey to go from depleted to repleted and revive your life again.

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